Exercise 3: Recognising if healing is needed

As we go through different experiences, we may not realize that we are struggling, or that healing might be needed. In this exercise, we want to go through these signs and symptoms and write down what we are feeling or experiencing. This may help identify if healing is required. We may have other symptoms or signs that we aren’t sure of - write them down, too. Take note of them all for the clearest picture.

This exercise is to help us identify important signs and then think about when they started appearing, if applicable, to ensure resolution after something emotionally challenging like abortion.

Note: This isn’t a comprehensive list and is not meant as a diagnostic tool, and there may be other factors that may be causing us to feel any of the below.

• Can’t sleep

• Waking up in the middle of the night

• Struggling to get up in the morning

• Having nightmares

• No appetite

• Eating too much/too little

• Crying a lot

• Feeling “heavy hearted”

• Getting agitated quickly

• Nervous or anxious

• Struggling to sit still

• Not interested in normal activities or feeling “numb”

• Getting angry with others, particular with a partner

• Unable to respond to children, or getting upset after seeing children or babies

• Distracted easily

• Not wanting to leave the house or see people

• Hurting myself

• Not able to pay attention

• Drinking too much or using drugs to cope

• Not wanting to be alone

As we said, this isn’t an exhaustive list, and there may be other factors causing them, but it is extremely important to listen to our bodies and minds when these signs and symptoms are common - it’s them trying to tell us something isn’t right. If we are concerned about the factors listed as we feel one or more of them, please contact a medical provider to find support. You’re doing the hard work right now of identifying your emotions and symptoms, but the best help may come by speaking with a medical professional for more support and insight.